After much preparation, the young self-proclaimed Emperor of The Han Dynastory is now serving a full-time mission to the UK with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

He will return in 2014.

Hello!

Welcome to the Han Dynastory!

As I am now serving a full-time mission with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I have left this blog under the stewardship of a family member, who may post updates on how I'm doing as he/she sees fit.

Enjoy your stay!

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Au Revoir

Tonight, I will be embarking on a full-time mission to the UK with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for 2 years. Here's a piano piece I wrote as a farewell gift to all my friends and family!

Monday, June 04, 2012

One Year Later

Today marks an exact year since I ended my relationship with Felicia. It's been a bumpy ride for me throughout, and now that a year has passed, I believe it is a good time to take stock and reflect on how far I've progressed.

One of the greatest challenges I faced was overcoming the bitter emptiness that still hits me from time to time. I had already concluded that it resulted from my mistake of putting my relationship with her before my relationship with God. I've been learning what it means to put my relationship with God first as I've been preparing for my mission (which is less than  a month away!). Along the way I've received the support and encouragement of many friends, which I am most grateful for. I expect that learning to put God first will be a lifelong endeavour, but one that I am glad I have started now.

On a more positive, and rather ironic note, my creative output has increased a fair bit over the course of the year that has passed. The irony lies in the fact that I have been drawing most of my inspiration from our past relationship. Both the comics I've been drawing and then music I've been writing were inspired some way or another by some of the moments during and eccentricities of our relationship. I'm guessing that many other artists are inspired likewise. I find it rather silly that during the relationship I was so obsessed with it that I didn't spend as much time engaging in these creative activities as much as I do now. Most of the drawing I did was for the countless cards I made for her to celebrate almost any event possibly imaginable. Other than that I wasn't really adding much to my "portfolio". I guess there is a balance I will need to manage in a future relationship: to be absolutely dedicated to the relationship but not to the point of obsession, which results in my neglecting of the skills I have been developing over the years.

Just about two weeks ago, I had the opportunity to meet up with Feli when I was in Hong Kong. We met up for dinner and dessert, and she even gave me a tour of her university. After that we had a good heart-to-heart talk. We talked very frankly about a great deal of things; I was able to share with her how I've been struggling to move on, and she shared with me some of the challenges she faced too. I would say that she has made better progress than I have, and there's much that I can learn from her (as always). Through our conversation I was able to clear a lot of doubts I had about myself. I had been seriously asking myself if I had really grown from the whole experience, or if I had let it decapitate me entirely. As we spoke however, I realised just how much I have learnt, if I would only take some time to think carefully (and less pessimistically).

Our chat did give me one great comfort too: the knowledge that we had established a friendship that outlives our relationship. I remember that, back in our JC days, Tim and I had many conversations about how we both agreed that a healthy relationship is built on a strong foundation of friendship, particularly a friendship that lives on even after the relationship may have ended. That Feli and I could have that heart-to-heart talk nearly a year after we parted ways was, to me, a testament to the strength of our friendship. Hence, I can rest assured knowing that I did at least one thing right in the relationship, and I hope to be able to do the same in a future relationship, if not better.

So here I am, one year after it ended. I must say I've learnt a lot. There's still a lot of room for me to mature, but at least I can take comfort in knowing despite all the difficult moments I've braved on the path to recovery, I've been making progress.

Starcraft 3

Based on a true story.


It's been a long year, but I think I'm making progress.